It's A Fancy Date!

Skip and I got to dress up last night for a black tie debutant celebration to honor our niece, Caroline.   It has been at least three years since we dressed up! and three years since I have purchased pantyhose!  They now have the most wonderful slips with Lycra and after 5 babies that is not a want but rather a need.  As I was getting ready, the children kept running into our room absolutely amazed at the transformation from MAMMA to "Princess."   I asked Grace if by chance I could be a queen.  Her reply, " No mamma, you have to be a princess because a queen's hair looks like this (she grabbed two bunches of her hair and had it sticking up) and mamma, your hair looks sooo good.   The older two girls tilted their heads as they looked at me and said almost in the form of a question, "You look so pretty?  I like your dress."  The baby just cried, she could not hide her confusion and shock.

The evening was so much fun!  I had the most handsome date in the room!  The theme for the night was Winter Wonderland and everything was beautiful - especially Caroline.  The room was filled frosted window panes, artificial snow, and white lights.  I loved looking at all the beautiful cocktail dresses worn by the college age girls.  Skip and I stood back and discussed how years ago black tie occasions were much more common, we were actually a little sad that it had been so long since we dressed up.  Don't get me wrong, we really like being a part of the more informal generation,  there is just something nice about a fancy date.

We are so amazed at how quickly time passes.  Caroline was a flower girl in our wedding - she was only 9 years old.  As she transitions to adulthood we are thrilled to see His plan unfold in this new chapter of her life. 

The Eve of Thanksgiving

THE CHRISTMAS TREE!!!!!

And a little cookie decorating

Yum!

Amelia was having the best time with all the candy and frosting!  

By the end these two had chocolate frosting from ear to ear. It was so funny to watch how Grace would delicately place each piece of candy with just the right amount of frosting and Quinn, he was just going to get the job done! 

So much fun!    We had the best time  - CONTAINED CHAOS!

Thankful By Annabel

I am thankful for:

having a fun family;

having a cute dog;

having a sweet mommy and daddy;

having great sisters;

having enough money for things;

having a big house to live in; 

going to church and not having to go to jail because we are at church.

Last week the older girls and I went to hear a friend of ours talk about her mission trip to India. She gave an incredible presentation with a lot of pictures.  She shared so much about how difficult life is for the people of India.  What really stuck with us was the many many  orphans, how people live in tents that get washed away by rains,  and the tragic persecution for Christians.   I sometimes wonder what my life would have been like had I understood what Annabel does at such a young age.  

Indians at the Preschool Thanksgiving Program

Can I take that?

Sure Meil, let me help you my little Indian Princess.

Where's Mama ?  Daddy, I cannot see her!

Swing me Daddy!

Are you bored Amelia?  Hungry?

The older girls and I arrived right on time to the Thanksgiving program.  Amelia and Quinn were more than ready to perform.  As I blended in with the sea of other parents in the small fellowship hall, pride was getting the best of me.  Quinn, while everyone was singing, was yelling, "Daddy, where is she?"  As you can see Skip was fortunate enough to also be center stage.  He kept saying, "Buddy, she is right there."  "Where Daddy?"  This went on for the duration of a very cute song that I know he could sing quite confidently.  In the meantime, Amelia decides she would do a little performance herself.  

We then proceeded to the wonderful Thanksgiving buffet in the small fellowship hall.  I have a difficult time in buffets with 5 children and we really do not eat out a lot -  Containing the chaos at home is much more enjoyable.  I am finding, especially after today, that we really need to expose the children a bit more to the art of fine dinning.  Today, we ate like Indians at the first Thanksgiving - that is not a good thing.

Grace decided she did not want to eat her corn, so she graciously scooped them up WITH HER HANDS and gently placed them on my plate with my corn.

Quinn, devoured his cookie - FIRST THING. He had chocolate all over his face!  His sweet friend Charlie sitting across the table was having to listen to his mother say, "No Charlie, we eat our dessert last."

Amelia dumped her plate over onto the plastic table cloth - then her drink.

Annabel feared a shortage of cookies so she kept leaving the table to stock up, never mind the line was still full of people waiting to eat.

I really felt happy for the sweet mother sitting in front of me.  It had to have been a proud parenting moment for her.  Her children behaved so mannerly.  I hope she praised them on the way home.   You will never guess what we discussed on the way home!

We really do need to work on our table manners.  Dinner at home is usually fun because Daddy is home.  It is loud and FULL of conversation - I cannot stand chaos, so we are able to hold that to a minimum.  I am not sure where to begin with this parenting project.  The older girls do well, but need improvement.

To give the children a chance to be greatly praised, I decided to run into the local PACKED with Thanksgiving shoppers grocery store.  I NEVER take all five into a store unless I really need something and no one is available to help me.

THEY DID GREAT!!!!

Tagged, So Here I Go!

1.Link the person who tagged me and list the rules.

  

I was tagged by The Duchess of Lanier waiting for Lady L.   We met on our adoption group forum and wow she has been a wealth of information, encouragement and support.

2. Share 7 weird and Random Facts About Myself - Here Goes

* In my home I cannot clearly think unless the house is organized.  My friends and I have decided I have a sensory processing disorder - or I am very ADD and I have to remove all distraction. Interesting I have 5 children and one one the way!

*  I never finish a cup of coffee in the morning.  I start drinking coffee about 6:00 AM and REHEAT the same cup over and over until finally I forget it that one last time and leave it in the microwave.  Why don't I get a fresh cup?????  Great question.

* My two favorite foods together are orange juice and pringles.

* Sometimes when I am scared or on the verge of tears - I begin to laugh.  I have no control over that particular emotion at that particular time.   It is truly the strangest response and I really feel bad about it.  One night, my husband sprained his ankle so badly.   He had gone out to the street to move his car into the driveway and twisted his foot as he stepped down off the curb.  He had to practically drag himself into the house on his stomach.  When I saw him rolling on the foyer floor, he had sweat dripping down his face.  As he was rolling around on the floor I could tell he was in  pain.  He claims he was on the verge of passing out.  I do not know what hit me but I started to laugh and LAUGHED!  STRANGE!!!  My daughter, Olivia, came to me one time and her eyes were full of tears (she is not short of tears) and she had such a big lump in her throat she couldn't talk.  I could feel the same lump welling up in my throat - so what do I do to avoid tears?  I uncontrollabley started to giggle!!!! She was upset because our sitter's dog was sick. SUCH A BAD MOTHER! - I think I have passed this trait down to my oldest daughter.

* It is very difficult for me to go into a store and only buy what is on my list.  I also have a difficult time sticking to buying the one thing I am looking for.   Target is a very bad place for me to go!

*  I am neurotic about nap time.  My children take naps everyday until they go off to kindergarten.  And now that I home school, I am thinking about streaching it to age 8!

* I asked Skip to help me come up with some quirky things about me.  The list could go on and on, however, I was interested in what he had to say.  When I asked,  he looked frightened wondering if I was trying to set him up!  How sad is that.  I promised him I would hold nothing against him.  He reminded me that I like to fall asleep on my back with my glasses on.   He waits until I am asleep, walks over to my side of the bed, takes off my glasses, sets them on my night stand (so gosh darn considerate - YES this is the same man I laughed at when he was in pain!) and then he crawls back into bed.

3. Tag  7 random people at the end of the post and notify them on their blogs.

To my sweet friends!  You have been tagged!

Conner Coles Mom

Football and Fried Rice 

Mom's Ministry and More

Primrose Princessess

Signs of Hope

The Domestic Fringe

Three Channels

4. Notify - Done

Great Desires

Beach 2008

I feel like we have crossed a finish line.  Back in June when we (mostly I) decided to adopt, I began to gather all the documents for the dossier.  But, for various reasons, the timing wasn't right at that time to completely dive in, so we decided to do everything we could without "officially" starting.  I couldn't wait to start the homestudy and I would dream about what it would be like to "really" start.  Well, it feels GREAT!!!! I feel like I am living in a dream.  Everyone was right, the home study wasn't as difficult as I imagined - we did have a great social worker.  It all went so smoothly and I am thrilled to almost be filing our immigration papers, a 100 or so day process.  All of our dossier papers have been gathered - only lacking some local review from two different government officials! - there is always just one more step around the corner!  

GRAND NEWS!!!!!

Any of you who have followed this blog know that we have sponsored a beautiful little girl in China named Faith (that is her "western name").   We have decided to try and adopt her!!  If you have read any of our previous posts, it shouldn't surprise you that we are pursuing adoption, what is new is the attempt to specifically pursue the adoption of Faith.  We have been told it will be next to impossible to match with a specific child like this due to the regulations and processes in China; however, we serve a mighty God!  We continue to open our hearts and eyes to His will and approach the throne confidently knowing His ultimate plan is divine.  

What is possibly most exciting about this is the unity in our family over this decision.  Keep in mind, Skip was not originally on board with adoption in general.  Even when he finally agreed, I worried that he was only doing it for me. But, he loves Faith and God really moved in his heart to pursue her adoption!  In fact, during a time of prayer together, Skip helped me realize just how deeply I wanted to pursue it.  You see, for the longest time, I kept this desire to adopt Faith stuffed deep down in my heart.  I knew that it was nearly impossible to get her, and I was afraid of how I would feel if we tried to adopt her and didn't get her-the rejection I would feel from God.   I was unable to pray about it and really wanted to pretend the desire was not there.  Everyone else in the family, however, was more open with their own desires.  The children would periodically say things like "Faith is going to be our sister," and Skip would say things like "God put Faith in our life for a reason, I think we are going to be able to adopt HER."  When they would say things like that I would get so mad... and sad.  I was so fearful of God not answering my prayer to get Faith that I couldn't ask, and I was afraid for anyone else to ask either.  But, one weekend I had an amazing revelation about our relationship with God.  This particular morning I woke up and Faith was really on my heart.   It was a day I had to focus on a lot of other things, but I kept praying for her and her forever family and she would not leave my mind.  I sat down to journal and pray. As I started, I began writing to God all the reasons I wanted her to be my daughter;  I want to rock her to sleep, read books to her, I want to love her and hold her and comfort her, teach her about Jesus, make sure she is always fed and warm . . .   I went on and on.  Two pages into it I was crying really hard.  I had pinned up all these desires in my heart - thinking I could keep them from Him. I was also terrified to ask Him, because at the time my flesh was not wanting to risk him saying no. (I guess I was helping him by not allowing him to disappoint me??  Like He didn't already know my heart.)  A few minutes after I finished writing and stopped crying, I read over what I had written and suddenly it hit me like a ton of bricks, I realized something my head has always known, but my heart could never comprehend.  I realized He desires me/us to be his sons and daughters even more deeply than I desire Faith.  His journals are much more elaborate!  He is coming after us with an even greater passion than we can imagine and it is so He can love us, comfort us, feed us, shelter us, teach us, guide us, laugh and cry with us, so that we will never again be orphans.  I'd sell off the whole world to get you back, trade creation just for you.  Isaiah 43:4 How could I not trust God?  His plans are perfect!  After this revelation and some prayer, I knew that it would be ok to pursue Faith.  Skip even took the lead!!  The following Monday morning he emailed our agency and started the process to try to get Faith. Since then, he has continued to lead the pursuit.  Praise God! Before, I doubted if he was really on board or if he was just doing it for me.  With this, I have no question.  Another praise in all of this... We still understand that we may not get Faith, but we are ok with that.  It simply may not be God's plan, but maybe it is.  Either way, whatever He has in store for us, it will be amazing and wonderful. 

BUSY!

The last two weeks have been one big party with the Sparkling Gems!  Trip to Orlando/Disney to see my family, two birthdays and then . . . the last home study tonight.  Whew!  And it is not over, we have one more birthday celebration on Saturday!  That makes three birthdays within 5 days on the heels of Halloween.  I feel like we are all on the Mad Hatter Tea Cup ride spinning around slowly then fast, faster, pause, spinning again.  I am always so thankful for the pauses.  

Quinn, Grace and I actually rode the Mad Tea Party ride at Disney.  It was the perfect ride late in the afternoon because the line was short.  At that point, Grace and Quinn were suffering from sensory overload which was displayed by fighting over who was first in the line, wallowing on the concrete and hanging and rubbing their faces all over the hand rails.  At one point to prove he was first Quinn inched up as close as he could get to the man standing in front of him.  This positioned him with his face in the man's hinney!!!!  UGGGHHHHHHH.   Yuck!  Yuck!!  Only to enter into any ride and fight over Grace wanting the pink one and Quinn wanting to ride the blue one.

I would like to say they were in rare form, but that is not the truth.  This is how my children react to being un-napped and over stimulated.  Tell me the secret behind all the other good line standers. 

I love schedules and nap time - I need schedules and nap times.  I should say that we had a wonderful time.  Despite being un-napped and over stimulated, they were absolutely wonderful.  There is nothing quite as amazing as a child's face when the monorail comes around the corner and they see the Magic Kingdom.  The smile plants on their face and doesn't leave until sometime the next day-even though they generally pass out on the drive back to their grandparent's house (which is about 5 miles from Disney).  It's funny... I think my husband gets the same look on his face when we get there, and I question whether he or the kids have more fun!  Its almost harder to get him to leave than the kids.  He rides the rides with them, and I think he understands exactly what THEY want to do because HE wants to do it too.  

Were Throwing A Party . . . Together!

We live in a very trick-or-treatable neighborhood.  This year our annual Halloween party had a slight glitch - the usual host had something else to do - which meant it was all up to me to carry on the tradition.  I had known this for months! It took another neighborhood friend to remind me I needed to get the ball rolling.  For a party thrown together last minute, it came off without a hitch.  We had soo much fun!  It was the most beautiful fall night!

Our Usual Christmas Card Picture (not this year friends!)

For years, we have used our Halloween family picture on our Christmas Cards.  Other than four times when we decided to send a dual purpose Christmas card/Birth Announcement, this has been our tradition.  In case you are curious, it started as an accident. We wasted several roles of film trying to get a great picture of us all decked out for Christmas.  None of them worked and out of utter desperation, I searched for a great family photo.  We had a good one from Halloween and, voila, a tradition was born.  After thinking about it last year, it occurred to us that perhaps it is unusual to send a picture of our Halloween Celebration to wish our friends and family a Merry Christmas!  This revelation was sparked when a couple of friends started asking questions about it.  As a mother, this holiday is this most fun - I love candy, children, junk food and fall!  I have created a lot of "stuff" to go along with the other holidays like are they going to like the gift, is everyone going to get along at Thanksgiving, what clothes will the children wear for the egg hunt . . . 

In our family, this holiday is about children, playing dress-up, dear friends, and celebrating fall. I just love it!!!   I do have just one wish and that is that our newest addition will be featured in next year's photo!

The Celebration

The Boys!

The Girls!

The Boys and the Girls!

Such a Creative Treat - Thanks ALH!

Olivia - The Snow Princess in her Bike Drawn Carriage - Peddled by a true Prince!